There are two main ways to be recognized as the most powerful person in a room. The first is to speak in such a lofty and authoritative way that everyone in the room succumbs to your superior intellect and commanding presence. The second is to inspire, challenge, and encourage others in the room so that they leave the room more powerful than they were prior to walking in.
The first way is fairly easy, but it’s elusive and laborious. After all, at any time someone else might step up to the plate and put us in our place. More often than not, our power plays are a rouse. All the patronizing speech is merely a cover up for our own insecurities. Part of living intentionally is asking ourselves the tough questions of why we act the way we do, and what we hope we will accomplish by doing so.
The second way to be recognized as powerful is far more rewarding and intentional. It stems from the recognition that you do, in fact, have something to say to the world. But your focus is in giving that information away to others, rather than steering the credit toward yourself. Each moment, you have the capacity to build someone else up, exalt yourself, or tear someone else down. The issue then becomes who or what takes precedence in your life: your own sense of identity or the value and enrichment of others? There are obviously times to look out for number one, but remember in those moments, you already know what you know, it does you little good to use it to your advantage. At the end of day doing so does little to improve your life.
By being intentional and attempting to build others up, you must be fully present during conversations and listen more than you speak. That way, when the powerful moments present themselves, you are ready to offer whatever you have to share with the world. Each one of us is powerful in our own way. We all have the capacity to share something that will benefit others, even if it is to help others learn from our own mistakes.
There is nothing more rewarding then to hear someone say, “You can’t believe what someone told me, it changed my life,” only to smile and know that they failed to realize I was the one that shared the idea with them in the first place. The reward is not in the recognition, but in the fact you changed someone’s life.
Two ways to be recognized as powerful: the first may offer some egotistical satisfaction, but in the end little is remembered and others leave the room deflated and discouraged (if not slightly disgusted). The second usually gets less fanfare, but you can rest comfortably at the end of the night, knowing that the little difference you made in the lives of others may just change us all…
You may not feel that you have anything to say, but it is important to recognize:
There are ideas and thoughts that only you carry, and those unique offerings have the ability to benefit others.
You are more than the insecurities you embody, at any moment you have the capacity to change and immediately become someone different.
What you “consume” has direct impact on the power you can give away. What you choose to “feed” on is important for yourself – and for others.